Do PDAers really want autonomy?

I saw someone else's post the other day about asking ChatGPT to answer questions about PDA with one word answers. And one of the questions was, "what do PDAers want the most?" and the answer was "autonomy."

And...maybe. I would never want to speak for or assume someone else's PDA experience - and I wouldn't want someone else to tell me about my PDA.

(In fact, in my work, you understand your neurodivergence more deeply NOT through my expertise, but through my curiosity.)

Because *my* personal experience of PDA could give zero fucks about autonomy.

What I, as a PDAer, most want is: less demands. Less papers and emails from school. Less appointments and red tape. Less hoops to jump through. Less spoon-stealing things.

What I, as a PDAer, most want is: more safety and more co-regulation. It is *the best* when someone does something with me or helps me, or talks to me while I do it, or does it for me, because, let's face it, it's way less dysregulating for them.

What I, as a PDAer, most want is: permission to be in my comfort zone, shoving stuff off my plate. Into the void of ways capitalism has complicated life for no reason other than to add stress and busy-ness to people's lives.

What I, as a PDAer, most want is: liberation from the constant dread. Even the smallest things that others wouldn't bat an eye at are for me, monumental, hero's journey missions that require a formidable gathering of courage and resources to undertake. Even pleasurable things. I love hiking. I am terrified to hike.

What I, as a PDAer, most want is: not your pity. I don't want care emojis. Maybe that's the autonomy piece. I want the way I am to be respected and dignified by the world.