CHIRON WOUNDING
On intentionally opting out of growth:
re: Chiron Aspects/Chiron Transits
Be honest about what you can handle.
Not what you should be able to handle.
Not what “cool you” or “healed you” can handle.
There are places in all of us that are delicate or sensitive.
Pushing those places? Not always a good idea.
Sometimes, the relationship you wanted to make work, is just too ouchy and stressful. And it might be because of your wounds. You might vacillate between pushing yourself harder and feeling more and more afraid and out of your depth or giving up. You might choose to give up. And that’s ok.
In the areas of our wounding, whether perceived “red flags” (note the word perceived and the quotes) signal work we need to do on ourselves or whether they mean what social media tells us (toxic! Exit immediately!) can be a fine line. We don’t have the greatest discernment or skill in this area and we’re very, very skittish.
(Working with a relationship therapist, a relationship coach, or even discussing with a good friend can help us gain perspective.)
It’s better to be honest about your capacity, even if it feels like you opted out of what could have been a really amazing thing because you just didn’t want to face your wounds.
That’s a story your brain is telling. (You were facing your wounds. It wasn’t working out.)
You did the right thing by self-protecting instead of self-over-exerting.
You don’t learn to surf 6 foot waves by continually pushing yourself into 6 foot waves and practically getting killed every time. You start with small, gentle waves.
If you have bum knees, you don’t keep sprinting 5ks and then getting mad at your knees for hurting. You stop sprinting.
We don’t want to live our lives with every move being made from a place of avoidance and self-protection to the extreme. Where everything we do or don’t do is about trying to avoid the wound getting activated/touched, making every decision from a place of fear and avoidance.
But - neither do we want to push a wound to heal that isn’t ready to heal.
Neither do we want to aggravate a wound in a way that doesn’t actually serve us long term, and comes from a place of ego and “I should be able to.”
If it sounds complicated, it is.
Chiron wounds are. I think the best Chiron medicine is being tender with yourself. Not pushing.
These are thoughts that I am thinking as my own Chiron wounds flare in relationship.
It's a Chiron time for me as transiting Chiron conjuncts my natal Moon.
Thoughts on whether it's worth it to get "over-activated" in an attempt to heal.
Sometimes, it feels scary but you learn stuff.
And sometimes, the deeper you venture into the woods, the worse you feel.
Chiron is the Wounded Healer archetype.
The Wounded Healer heals thanks to all the wisdom gained from the intimate experience of living with their own wounding.
Chiron in the myth never actually succeeds in healing himself. But he does succeed as a healer of others. Maybe it was never about healing our own wounds completely? Maybe the way to heal our wounds is to just let them be.
